My daughter compared me to another dad

[billeau2]

I'm amazed noone has replied that you should go fu ck jennys mum.

[billeau2]

Spitting good wisdom as always. Your kids are grown so you've been through it all, yes? My girls are getting older and starting to ask more questions and as a guy who has never been a role model type, it's kind of overwhelming. I really underestimated fatherhood and i cant imagine my wife not being around.

I did try to lecture my daughter about materials things and about life before realizing that Im talking to a 7 year old. Lol. I just got defensive too about things which was why my wife called me immature which is true. I have alot of growing up to do myself but Im willing to learn.

Bottom line is You could send them to the best preschools guaranteed to use subliminal programming to make them a genius, buy them the best of everything, read every parenting book, punish them for not getting the best grade in every class lol.... And you would wind up with a horrid animal of a kid... OR, if you just love them... That is the magic, and that is what they need... This has been proven time and time again. And Whatever the issue is, honesty prevails, because kids have great BS detectors. All your daughter has to know is that the word operates a certain way that forces us to have to compete at a certain level... But that this will always be secondary to what is truly important... being a stand up individual and being unconditionally behind each other 100%.

If you think you underestimated fatherhood you probably didn't lol. Wives will say such things because they do not have to deal with shiat we have to, bottom line! we protect them from stuff! Most women (not all) would probably freak out if they had to go into the marketplace, fix things constantly, and do it well enough to make it work on the regular. ESPECIALLY when one has their own BUSINESS! You have to be driven lol because you are the bottom line.

I guess to me there is no shame in protecting your status... Women often won't understand this... incidentally it might be something a daughter has to suss out with you to understand... basically when cavemen chased Wooly Mammoths off of cliffs, and some men came back from the hunt maimed, if they came back at all... Damn right the other men bragged about their prowess! And damn right their name and how their family saw it was important! Like life and death important...

Your name is what it is about... And part of being a stand up indvidual is to make sure your family understands WHY you protect certain things. I do not think it is immature to help your family understand the real value and mechanics of wealth and prosperity. People have lots of shiat all the time... and often lose it all in a flash. And there are people like prince Howdy Doody and Megin malicious who are pathetic, but have lots of wealth. Here is one suggestion: Take your daughter into a work situation with you one day... A relatively tame one lol, but it will give her a chance to see things for herself.

[REDEEMER]

It’s better to be the opposite actually, people usually get better things from previous generations. Maybe explain people start off differently more importantly most even aren’t fortunate enough to have one running vehicle so getting into a contest is a mistake don’t go there .

I grew up in a luxurious lifestyle Olympic sized pool ,our own boat on the bay the works then we lost it all by the time I was 9 . So it’s better not having to much because once you lose it as a young age kids take it personally I did . Needless to say we never got back the lifestyle and we always had 2 great cars and I’d consider myself lucky yes kids are different today but they also understand more it’s only as complicated as you make it if you don’t tell it like it is .

[travestyny]

I won't deny it. 80% of my conversation with friends and wife is about money,material things and it's rubbing off on her.

They are getting older and I really have to watch what I do and say because they are starting to understand things.

Realizing it is a huge part of the battle. She's still young and I think you have time to right it. What's most important is that you care....we shouldn't have to say that about fathers but you know how it is. Much respect though for handling your business and looking to make the change.

[billeau2]

THE DR SPOCK STORY: No, not star trek... This is Benjamin Spock, the authority during the sixties on how to raise kids... Every progressive mama looked to Dr Spock... Here are some of his materials



Dr Spock's son... Jumps off a bridge commits suicide



And what does this teach us? Well... its kind of funny being that a man is the supposed authority on raising kids... But something else is even funnier... And I don't want to be crass about it. The guy apparently didn't do so well raising his own kid... Ive met women who dropped out of high school, when i was a kid, who raised up large families with nothing much and did a magnificent job. Who taught them? lol.

So I like to think of the fate of Benjamin Spock's son as a cautionary tale... Unless you are my generation its hard to imagine how much clout this guy had lol... If he had said "hold your kid's head underwater for an hour, there would have been a lot of drowned kids!!

Advice? The women I saw that were exemplory were some of the Puerto Rican moms. They would punish their kid right there on the spot with a slap and then hug them... Tough and tender at the same time... I know we don't slap anymore lol... But being tough as nails and loving together seems to be a great way. My wife is similar to those women (Cajuns are sort of like French Puerto Ricans lol). At any rate... Never read any books on the subject! Never needed to do so